Monday, February 20, 2012

Perfection.



I'm a HUGE perfectionist though and though (God bless my husband). If something's not just right I get pretty upset with myself and feel like a failure. Whenever I make a mistake it takes DAYS for me to get over it! It's of course not with everything(thank God), but still quite a few things. I'm not a clean freak or OCD although I do feel 10x better when things are clean. I mostly am a people pleaser. If I work hard to please someone and they point out things after that I didn't do right I start balling inside, especially if I don't get a second chance to redeem myself. (although I do appreciate comments to help me improve on something!)
My husband has learned over the years to be a little more expressive about my meals, because if he's silent, or says, "it was good" in a neutral voice it make me think there was something wrong with it. (I'm also very expressive when it comes to good food!)
I've been a HUGE perfectionist with Everett. To the point where my life was 100% mom 100% of the time. I made it a goal a while back to just quit trying to make everything perfect for him and slack off every once in a while. I feel like I've become a lot better at this over time and still continue to. It's hard to have to relearn to live life.
With all of that said I just want you to know that my life's not perfect... in any way. I've seen so many bloggers frustrated with themselves and feeling like their not good enough, because they get sucked up in this fantasy lifestyle where everything looks, tastes, fits, and goes perfect. Behind those twenty-some perfect pictures that someone posted, there were probably a good eighty that weren't. My point is, that any kind of social networking is just like a magazine. You can't take anything for what it looks like. I try to be genuine on this blog as much as I can, but yes, I do post more about my good days then my bad. I like to look at the positive side of life and I hope you usually leave this blog feeling a little more positive about life. We have way too little life left to focus on the negative.
Enjoy life. Enjoy the little things. Don't pull your hair out, because you can't get something to look the way it does on Pintrest!

"There's no fun in a perfect life. so make a risk. take a chance. go where the wind takes you. have fun." --Jenny C.


xo -Liz

8 comments:

  1. Thanks for posting this! It's so good to know you are human! I've been pretty envious of your "perfect" photos and blog too :). I definitely struggle with perfection. I think it can be a gift too just as long as we dont obsess too much :)

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  2. Btw I love your blog! I am always excited to.read new posts!

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  3. Hi Liz,

    I, too, struggle with accepting myself ... or making me the best I can be. I am not a perfectionist, I don't think ... but definitely a procrastinator, and a person who easily gets pulled into Facebook and checking on friends and family when I should be working, etc. Then when I am behind on things, I feel guilt.

    I did write the following poem one day. I hope it blesses you:

    HEAVENLY DEPENDENCE

    When I am weakest
    You are strong.
    When I am weary,
    Faint, or wrong,
    Your love is inexhaustible.
    I lean on You – dependable.
    Your wisdom, still unsearchable.
    Your care, indefatigable
    Your grace, incomprehensible.
    Your promises, unchangeable.
    Your power to aid, infallible.

    Oh Mighty God,
    Help me to see,
    I’m strongest when
    I lean on Thee.
    By “Renie”
    (Grammy)
    2-7-2011

    Love ya so much, Grammy

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  4. Did you get my comments, Liz?

    Love, Grammy

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  5. Good post! As someone else who struggles with the perfectionism disease, I feel your pain! The first step to recovery is admitting we have a problem, right? :)
    God is helping me with the "disease," and I pray that He helps you with it, as well. Thanks for writing all your blog posts! I love reading them.
    xoxo

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